Give Me a Break (The Amazing Power of Your Subconscious Mind & How it May Be Working Against You!)
Be careful of the language you use because you will always get what you speak about but it may not necessarily be what you want.
Your subconscious mind is very powerful but it cannot judge – so it cannot tell the difference between the word ‘break’ as in time out and the word ‘break’ as in break an arm or leg.
Isobel was a lovely lady in her 60’s who was looking after her very frail mother. She needed help with everything and had to be carried to the bathroom, to the sitting room – she would not use a wheelchair but as she was not heavy her daughter did not mind carrying her.
Unfortunately Isobel also ran a very successful business and at the end of the day was exhausted not only from the number of clients but also from constantly being on call for her mother.
Then one day she walked into a closed plate glass door. She was lucky the glass did not break but she got a terrific shock and had a suspected fracture of her wrist.
Rather than go for an x ray or medical treatment she came to me first. She said: “I want to know why I may have broken my wrist – I want to know the hidden thought behind it, This is so inconvenient and I am so busy. It’s the last thing I need”
As we explored her exhaustion it became clear that she needed a break from her Mum: she was worn out with all the caring of her and felt trapped by her mother’s needs. She loved her too much to put her in a nursing home but could not manage to look after her any more, either.
While her mother needed the help Isobel needed a ‘break’ from it all – and this is exactly what her mind gave her. The break in her wrist was just enough to prevent her being able to look after her mum.
Remember the subconscious mind cannot judge between a break as in time out and the word ‘break’ as in break an arm or leg. So it looked after Isobel and gave her the break she kept asking for. Not quite the one she wanted but definitely a ‘break’, which in fact gave her time out.
So listen very carefully to the words you use – they may be expressed in a way you don’t expect!!
